Law, Liberty, and Living?

Usually I have a title before I ever begin to type, but this time I have comments and questions and very unsure of of either the direction or the point.
How is it that we, here in America, draw such nice neat lines between our beliefs and our way of living, our religion and our values, while projecting a precarious balancing act between liberty and law?
Well, now that political affiliation has become polarized on moral issues, it has really made the influence in religion that the ecumenical movement could not. Who knew? Rather than love for the "brethren," it would be war, anti-terrorism, and ban of gay marriage that would finally draw the denominations to one accord. Well, I'm sure G~d knew what it would take, all along. So, I am not questioning Him, but I am questioning the criteria by which we have established our living standard; and even more, the standard by which we judge others.
First, our ecumenical politics. I heard several ministers last fall, telling their congregations to "vote according to the Bible." The Bible tells believers, their "citizenship is not in this world" and "pray for those in leadership." Praying and voting are not the same thing, so is American religion, political; or are American politics, religious?
And does our way of life, the way we interact with others, line up with what we say are our beliefs? Do our ethics match our situation, or does our response match the action of the perpetrator, or do we really live according to what we proclaim? I have had some interesting time in ministry as I have spoken to very devout people that are having difficulty getting others to see things their way, which is, of course; right. Do you know, there are only Old Testament scriptures that say parents can use corporal punishment for their children, but those same people do not have to live by the Old Testament rules themselves, because they are free from the law? And the liberty of the New Testament tells us to turn the other cheek, while the law of the Old Testament tells us "an eye for an eye." Which brings me to my next point.
How is it; that I am told the Bible says liberty does away with the Law, and this nation is Bible based, but has laws to protect liberty? Now, I personally do not believe that teaching. I believe we are offered forgiveness by grace through Y'shua, and have the liberty to accept or reject that offer. With acceptance of the offer, comes the privilege to be called the children of G~d. And we all know, with family rights, come rules, and rules are ordinances and ordinances are laws. And as we continue to accept the continual drumming of all the new laws needed in our country to "protect our freedom and liberty" . . . If our nation is Bible-based, and our laws are founded on Scripture, then why is our national religion teaching that the Biblical definition of liberty means the Law is obsolete? Are we suggesting that man's laws are superior or more lasting than G~d's? Why is it; that to observe G~d's 613 laws makes a religious person, in legalistic bondage, but to observe America's 200.000+ laws, makes a person free?
What could possibly be wrong with being as loyal to G~d as we are to our nation?

Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey G~d rather than men